If you’ve ready my post on ‘10 Signs He’s Toxic And You Need To Get Rid Of Him,’ then I just want to say, I’m not a complete cynic. I’m only looking out for you, girlfriends. Sometimes, as we date and make mistakes, we kind of shut ourselves down. It could be because we’re scared of getting hurt again or it could be because we find it hard to trust. But what if the two of you click and he’s great company, but you don’t know if he’s a keeper? Here are ten signs to get you a little closer to figuring out whether he’s a hit and run or in it to win it!
1) He Calls, If He Says He’s Going To Call.
This doesn’t mean you go bat shit crazy on his ass every time he misses your call or forgets to call back. Everyone’s busy sometimes and everyone’s human. If he calls you back and replies to your messages for the most part, even though it may take him some time, it shows he’s a man of his word and he isn’t being flaky.
2) He’s Okay With Taking It Slow.
I know this is kind of a no-brainer, at least I hope it is for you. I still have to reiterate, don’t fall for stupid excuses. If he’s saying stuff like, “I promise I’ll just come over for coffee,” or “I want to have sex to feel closer to you,” then please call out his bullshit right there.
3) He Listens.
I don’t mean pretends to listen. I mean actually, seriously listens and doesn’t just hear. Take note of his body language when you’re talking. Does he seem interested? And don’t be afraid to test him once in a while on something you’ve previously said. No, don’t expect him to remember everything you’ve ever said, but don’t make excuses for him if he seems to remember nothing.
4) You’re On The Same Page
I’m not asking you to get straight to it, but a couple of dates should confirm what he’s looking for. Is he looking for a hook up? If he is, then are you? If you’re looking for a relationship and he isn’t, end it right there. No, you won’t be able to change him.
5) He Isn’t A Psychopath
By this, I mean he isn’t overly possessive or clingy. It may seem cute that he’s texting you so much or he feels protective about you, but don’t confuse protective with possessive. If he refuses to give you your space, and I’m not referring to cutesy texting, then you’re going to get sick of it soon enough.
6) He Can Be Vulnerable.
If he’s able to show you his hurt, low, or emotional side, that definitely means something. Opening up to someone can be a sign that you want them to stay.
7) He Appreciates You For Being You.
He appreciates you and he can say it, that’s a keeper. Make sure he doesn’t want to change you and is with you because he’s very content with the kind of person you are. Of course, you’ve got to be yourself in the process, that goes without saying.
8) He Publicly Acknowledges You.
If he doesn’t do this, that’s a blaring signal of N-O! While you cannot expect him to constantly shower you with attention and blow kisses your way, there is no excuse for him not to introduce you to his friends or be seen with you in public.
9) He Lets You Pick Sometimes.
It’s not always about where he wants to go and which movie he wants to watch. It’s a two way street. Sometimes he lets you pick Chinese even though you know he hates it. And ladies, just because he lets you pick doesn’t mean you don’t offer him the same courtesy.
10) Honesty Is The Best Policy.
He might take his time to open up, so don’t push him. But notice whether he makes a sincere effort to be honest with you and if he expects the same out of you, that’s perfect balance. It’s the best kind of relationship there is.
If he’s passed my little, ten-point test and you’re still wondering whether he’s the one? I think, ‘go for it!’ Do these ten signs remind you of anyone special?