Far too often, I hear the words ‘date’ and ‘relationship’ used interchangeably. In fact, it happens so much that I’ve stopped correcting it and hence, I decided to do this blog. There’s a reason the two are very different phases of being with someone. Before you decide to be “in a relationship” and call someone your boyfriend or girlfriend, there’s an initial phase of dating and getting to know each other. This is when you call, text, go out on dates, and of course the minor details are up to the both of you. So here are 5 reasons you should always date before you commit to a full-fledged relationship.
You could ask this question literally or just take some time to get to know the kind of person he or she is. Obviously, you wouldn’t want to jump into something real and then figure out that you really aren’t compatible with each other. Or what if you discover he likes peeing on people after sex? Hey, if that’s your thing, then go with it, but it definitely isn’t something you want to find out once he or she is officially your boyfriend or girlfriend.
It’s not just about knowing whether the person’s sane. Just knowing their personality doesn’t quite cut it. If you’re going to be a constant in this person’s life, don’t you want to know a little bit about their routine and the way they choose to live their life? Sometimes, tiny, everyday decisions can say a lot more than professing love for one another.
Before you decide to spend the next saath janam with him or her, will you be able to live with his or her family and friends? It’s a question that you absolutely MUST ask yourself. Don’t expect them to be exactly like you, but is it something you can adjust to?
So, you’ve taken the plunge into being boyfriend and girlfriend and all of a sudden you aren’t sure anymore. He has annoying habits, she calls way too often, whatever it is … wouldn’t you rather figure this out way in advance? Breaking up is so much harder when you’ve announced it to the world. Plus, give yourself the chance to stay away from sudden heartbreak. Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve. This way, you can keep your options open.
You might just discover that getting to know each other over time may lead to a deeper love and commitment. You’ll know his or her and their best and worst before you decide to seal the deal. It’ll keep your spark alive because it’ll make things more interesting.
I’m not saying you need to date forever. Date for as long as you feel is right and set a time limit or else you’ll end up confused more than anything else! Agree? Tell me how you feel about this!