When calling your ex and hurling curses on the phone or burning her picture doesn’t work (yes I’m recalling Jab We Met), it’s time to get real and snap out of it. It’s definitely easier said than done, but such is life. On a positive note, there are steps you can take to try and deal with any breakup (it doesn’t have to be a boyfriend or a girlfriend) in a healthy way. Of course, you won’t just magically go about it the right way, but after a couple of breakups … take it from me … you learn to fill empty spaces in ways that don’t require standing outside his doorstep at 2 AM – Been there done that.
1) Watch Lots Of Movies
Remember my post on 6 Tear-Jerking Bollywood Movies To Ease You Through A Breakup? Right now would be a good time to start a movie marathon. Cry it out, laugh it out; basically, just don’t hide your emotions. If you don’t want to binge watch too many romantic movies, alternate it with comedy, action, or whatever your preference.
2) Talk It Out
Treat your best friend like your therapist. Tell her everything you’re feeling. He or she is your bff for a reason and it’s times like this when you can lean on them most. I know I definitely have a handful of people I go to for bitching sessions or advice. My mom is one of them too. Just don’t increase the circle to more than 5 people. Choose a couple of people whom you trust and who won’t judge you. It’s an added bonus if they also know how to give it to you straight.
3) Plan Your Eating
I know this sounds terribly boring, but make it a fun little activity. Get passionate about it. It’s usually around breakup season that you either binge or starve. Neither of these options will do you any good. So excite yourself about food, but keep it under control at the same time by making a little food menu for the week. My mom gave me this idea and honestly, I really look forward to planning my meals now. It’s like treating yourself whilst still keeping the health factor in check.
4) Get Social, Get Doing.
All the time that you used to spend with your partner, is now, absolutely free! Don’t waste it. Plan girls night, cook outs, book clubs, whatever it is that sparks your interest. Take up a new hobby, that in itself is a great way to meet new people. No, a new hobby doesn’t mean downing 3 martinis before 9 PM. I mean like, horse riding or something … you get the gist.
5) Work It Out
To go off my last point, join kick boxing or a fun physical activity like that. Even if it’s just running, do it. It’s a great investment for your body and the best way to sweat out your anger and frustration. If you can do it with a friend or as a group activity, even better! Getting sexy is the best revenge. Oh, and make sure you do it with some kick ass music.
Needless to say, you will have your bouts of ups and downs. It’s important to remember, in the mess, that time really does heal all wounds. Keep at it and keep positive.