Love or something like it, that is what this post is about. One night, and a couple of drinks later, my girlfriends and I had a discussion on love. (I had known most of them for over 10 years, and our definition of love has evolved over the years.) We all had experienced the same kind of relationships, which made me think about the different kinds of love we all experience in our lives…
It’s the kind of love that you sing Pehla Nasha to. Whether it starts off because you share the same desk at school or shared a glance while walking past each other in the hallway, it was filled with innocence. It was simple, and it was pure. You were convinced you had found ‘the one’. How I wish it were that easy.
In other words, the one sided love affair. We all have been through this and nothing is more heartbreaking than seeing someone you love, love someone else. Remember Anjali from Kuch Kuch Hota Hain? I am sure, at one point of time, we were all that girl.
It’s just something people do unintentionally (unless they are evil). They are more in love with the idea of love, rather than the person. It ends sooner or later, and you feel nothing but a sense of relief.
This is the one relationship that teaches you what you don’t want from a relationship! It’s the one where games are played, emotions are hurt, and you lose yourself completely. Probably like being on drugs, where you know it’s bad, but the high was so good that you keep going back. I think the Taylor Swift’s song, I Knew You Were Trouble is about this kind of love. So, don’t feel too bad. You need to know what is wrong, to appreciate what is right!
This person will be the core of your existence. They shape you, mould you, and make you a better person. They teach you about love, life, and yourself. Unfortunately, love itself isn’t enough to keep two people together. There are a lot of other factors that come into play for a “happily ever after”. The timing needs to be perfect, and if it is not, you are left with a broken heart, a lost love, and a lifetime of beautiful memories.
Everything about this love is subtle. They may not make grand declarations of love or over the top romantic gestures, but they do little things every single day to make it special. Sometimes, you miss the high or the spontaneity; the randomness or the craziness. Then you take a step back, and look at the bigger picture – you smile, and realize, that you wouldn’t want it any other way.
As Carrie Bradshaw rightly said,
Maybe our girlfriends are our soul-mates and guys are just people to have fun with?
So enjoy the madness that you share, love the imperfections, and know that some relationships are meant to last a lifetime!
Finally, I would like to end with one of my absolute favourite quotes on soul-mates. I mean, how can I do a post on love, and not include soul mates right? As Elizabeth Gilbert rightly said,
People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.
A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.
A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…