Yay! You just got proposed to and it’s all rainbows and butterflies. And by all means, you should enjoy and cherish this moment. Because what comes next can be quite stressful if you go into in unprepared. Now I’m sure you’ve heard horror stories about wedding planning and such but it can be an enjoyable experience too, if you go into it with eyes wide open. Planning your big day (or days) seems pretty straightforward right? Well, as easy as it may seem, it’s actually a tricky and challenging time for any young couple. A lot of the times, it’s easy to gloss over the whole prep phase and think it’s just about the venue, cards, etc. But in reality, it’s a lot more than that. So here are 8 things you probably didn’t think about, leading up to your big day.
1. You Can’t Live In Denial Anymore
Alright, keep your pitchforks down. We aren’t saying that couples getting married are in denial. But the fact that the realisation that the big day is fast approaching comes very suddenly and with a boom and usually ends up causing panic. So, we highly recommend that if you’ve got the date set, start planning it so you can relax a bit more as you get closer to it.
2. The Logistics
The most basic thing when getting married is usually the most overlooked thing. In all the excitement and bustle of the marriage, sometimes you tend to forget to confirm things, make bookings, etc. This usually leads to chaos breaking out at the last minute. And time flies when you’re getting married, faster than it usually does! So, being a little more focused till you have all the details locked down never hurts. Spare yourself all the emotional and mental trauma of running around like a headless chicken.
How could shopping possibly be that bad, right? Well, most brides-to-be actually get sick of it. While it starts off fun, the sheer intensity of it stops being exciting and it slowly but steadily becomes more like a chore. It pays to start early and actually plan out everything so you can actually enjoy it more. We also noticed that only shopping with family can get monotonous. So, maybe consider dividing up all the shopping with family and friends.
4. Surprise Parties
I mean, who doesn’t love a good surprise party! Here’s the thing though, it usually doesn’t stop at just one or two. Everyone wants to get in on the action and everyone wants to make you feel special leading up to your big day. It’s a cute gesture but it can get really tiring and draining, especially since you’ve got a lot on your plate. A word of advice, it’s always good to give your crew a heads up on the dates you’re free.
5. Random People From A Long Ago Time
Anyone who’s gotten married knows who we’re talking about. These kinds of people are the ones who you probably haven’t spoken to in a decade and yet mysteriously appear as you reveal the good news. Most of the time they are trolling for an invite but sometimes they just want to wish you well. So, maybe be prepared for some really out-of-nowhere situations and messages.
6. A Sh!t Ton Of Unwanted Advice
From family to friends, be prepared to get a boatload of advice that you probably already knew and you mostly don’t really need. Ranging from superstitions to skincare, all the way to weight loss and time management, you’re going to get bombarded with advice. While they may actually mean well, it can get overwhelming and leave you in a tizzy. So, don’t get frazzled and tune-off. In one ear, out the other…
7. Uninvited Guests And Relatives
Marriage is a time of celebration for the couple and their family. Sometimes though, that celebration also extends to relatives you aren’t necessarily fond of or even know. Those annoying ‘Do you remember me, I met you 25 years ago when you were born!’ lines can leave you a bit stunned and confused. You’re bound to find these people everywhere and all you can do is smile and wave.
8. Your Emotions Are Going To Be On Edge For A Long Time
Most people getting married seem to underestimate the emotional toll it takes on you. While it may seem like there is a lot of physical activity with the running around and stuff, there is also an emotional side to the whole thing that can exhaust you. Not every bridezilla is that way because she wants to, it can be mentally and physically draining and towards the end, she just wants it to get done with. Give yourself a little break or a little R&R every now and then.
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