5 Life Lessons I've Learnt Being A Mother Of 3 With Another One On The WayParul Kakad , 15 May 2018
At Team MissMalini we firmly believe that mothers should be celebrated every day. They give us life and from that moment on, we’re lucky to have and experience a love that is so unconditional, it cannot be compared to any other. So, on the occasion of Mother’s Day this year, we have asked some of the mommy bloggers we know to write us a few thought pieces From Mommy’s Eyes. Parul Kakad of Mumbai Mummy shared her thoughts on why working mothers should rid themselves of guilt.
How many times do we strike up a conversation at parties with the question, “What do you do?” Think about it. My answer is always, “I’m just a mother.” But it’s not ‘just’ at all. I’m a full-time mom of 3 adorable, notorious, gangster children who’re 10, 5 and 3 respectively, with a fourth on the way! And not to forget my husband; the breadwinner and my fifth child.
Being a mom is amazing. Whether you have one, two or ten, it doesn’t matter. The fact remains that from that moment forward your heart is walking around outside your chest, for the rest of your life.
It’s crazy, fun, adventurous and scary all at the same time. And I’ve learnt a tonne of lessons along the way. Here are 5 of them:
#1 Routine is king
Organising a schedule and pulling through the day is tough, but I try and be big on sticking to a schedule! Routine is king! And kids really appreciate routine because then they know what to expect. But also they get bored. So, the key is routine, with elements of surprise to keep them on their toes, and not bored.
#2 Divide your time
Amidst all the madness I try not to forget to give myself some time and my loved ones, husband, family and friends a bit of me too!
#3 Every day is different
Every morning is new. Every day is different. We all wake up with different moods, feelings and thoughts each day and go on to experience different things also. It’s about learning and embracing every emotion that we wake up with and pull through the day together, with a bit of understanding. We discuss what we liked best and what we didn’t at the end of the day and how we could improvise a particular decision or were we content with what we did.
#4 Teach them new things
As a mother, I try and challenge them almost every day and make them work at learning something new or overcoming something seemingly insurmountable, so as to give them an understanding and feeling of how life is and works.
#5 Go to bed happy
Mostly, it’s important to go to bed happy in order to wake up and be happy. As mothers, we try on a daily basis to give our best to our children but often forget about ourselves. We often say how life has changed so much after a child. But I believe that you should never for one second believe that. There is a solution to every problem. Work at it. Find it. And keep it! Because ultimately the answer to how to raise a happy child is to be a happy mother.
Make a resolution and decide to give yourself an hour of happy time; take a stroll in a park, go out dancing, plop yourself in a coffee shop and people-watch, paint. Do what makes you happy and see the world of a difference that makes.