There are people who think there’s more to life than what they’ve currently got, some who regret their life decisions, and others who are really happy and satisfied with them. I’d like to believe I fall into the third category of people. Especially when it comes to relationships, it isn’t easy to live a life with no regrets but I’ve managed somehow. Sure, I’ve had my fair share of bad dates that I regret going on, but that only made me realise how these decisions have contributed towards leading me to my husband.
Every person on earth has seen ups and downs in their lives and the one mistake we all make is compare ourselves to them. “Why don’t I have a body like that?” or “How is it that she has such a happy life and I’m here working my butt off for an average pay?” or even “How is it possible that he/she found her soulmate and I still haven’t?” Firstly, let me start by telling you, some, if not most of these people, create a facade of happiness that you might not be able to recognise. So, stop comparing your life with others’.
The problem of comparing our love life with others is something most of us have been victims of. It’s only natural to feel this, but it’s also important to get over it as quickly as possible. In fact, the one thing this might result in, is picking a partner just for the sake of picking one. And that’s definitely not why you should be with someone.
A lot of people are pressurised by peers to find a life partner due to societal norms. It’s events like weddings or Valentine’s Day that seed the thought of loneliness in your mind. In such cases, one succumbs and picks a partner in haste which eventually forces them to lead a life they’re not completely happy with.
We often face a conflict between waiting for our perfect match and settling for someone just to join the bandwagon of couples around. For years, I felt the pressure of dating someone, not because my family forced me (luckily they never did) but because I felt lonely and needed a companion at that point. Naturally, I realised soon enough, that it wasn’t the best decision. Not only was I unhappy, but it wasn’t fair for the person I was with. Also, when I think back to the people I settled for, I imagined how unsatisfied I would’ve felt. Simple because that person wasn’t right for me. And this is why I’m thankful I waited for the right person instead.
If you talk about a long-term relationship like marriage, even the little things in the day matter, whether they’re good or bad. And imagine these little things every single day. If they’re good things, your relationship tends to grow positively, but if these things aren’t good, they can negatively impact your relationship. These things, therefore, will depend on the chemistry with your partner. Which means, picking the right person is crucial. Sure, every couple fights! But only for the right reasons and not bicker on every petty thing. That’s the difference!
If you pick your life partner without any haste or pressure, you will take your time to find the right match and that person can be the one who helps you grow and be your companion in all phases of your life.
Does this person uplift you instead of putting you down? Is this person your cheerleader and confidant? There are so many other questions you can ask yourself, you can read more about that here. If this person basically empowers you, you’ve got yourself a keeper.
Some people find their partners early, while others take their time. It is important, like I mentioned, to be patient and not rush into anything. If you’re feeling the pressure, make no mistake, it will show and that’s not what you want! So, go out, network, take up a hobby, introspect and just be yourself.
The point I’m trying to make is, don’t pick someone for reasons like loneliness or family pressure. Pick them when you feel they’re right for you—period!
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