I still remember the day like it was yesterday… Thirteen years ago I lost my father and my life changed forever. The strongest person I knew, the one who was supposed to guide me through life was gone; and there was nothing I could do about it. Along with the tears and heartbreak came the feeling of being lost. Saying goodbye to him earlier than I could have ever imagined was the hardest thing I’ve faced in life.
In these rough times, I received a lot of advice—mostly unsolicited. But on that note, one piece of advice that always stuck with me was the fact that I was never alone. Realising that there are other people who have also lost their loved ones and yet somehow managed to live a full life, gave me a slither of hope. Life goes on and no matter how badly you want to pause it, you simply cannot. With Father’s Day coming up, along comes the string of confusing and gloomy emotions for those of you who grew up without a father I want you to know this…
You’ve been through a lot but your life experiences are what make you who you are. Some days it may feel like your life is incomplete and nothing makes sense, but it’s so important to remind yourself that you’re so much braver than you believe and stronger than you think you are. You’re strong because of your positivity, because of your faith and because even through the roughest of times, you’re still here.
Dealing with loss is never easy and I’m not going to lie, sometimes there are days when you just can’t hold on to hope. It’s during these days when you should comfort yourself by remembering that you’re only human, you’re allowed to feel whatever you’re feeling and that you’re doing the best you can.
The future holds amazing things for you. Instead of holding on to the past, try and enjoy the present. Surround yourself with people who make you feel inspired and excited to live. Count your blessings and be grateful every day. I promise you from the bottom of my heart that everything is going to be A-Ok!
It should be a feeling of pure pride that you are becoming exactly the kind of person your father taught you to be. Hold on to all the beautiful memories of him, be a kind person and spread happiness. It’s what he would’ve wanted.
This Father’s Day, I’m going to celebrate the fact that I had a wonderful father, and cherish the memories that I have of him. I hope you’ll do the same.
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