Sharmila Tagore was recently on her daughter-in-law, Kareena Kapoor Khan‘s radio show What Women Want. It was an enjoyable episode, as anticipated. After all, watching the famous saas–bahu pair chatting about a variety of things can be nothing short of entertaining.
An interesting topic raised during the conversation between the begums of Pataudi was the difference between a daughter and a daughter-in-law. Sharmila ji had a mature approach to the subject, which obviously comes from abundance of wisdom accompanied by experience.
A daughter is someone you’ve grown up with, right? So you know her temperament, you know what makes her angry and how to deal with that person. You’re meeting your daughter-in-law when she is an adult already and you don’t quite know what her temperament is like, so it takes time to gel. The new girl, your daughter-in-law, is coming to your house so you need to welcome her and make her more comfortable.
If I say, “When my son was young, this is what he liked and this is his favourite dish”… All that showing off can be a bane. You should allow their relationship to grow more than try and take over.
Wow, that’s a pretty sound advice! Pretty sure all the new brides as well as brides-to-be, along with their new families will relate to it.