I’d like to think that I’m the kind of person who isn’t really picky about a lot of things in life. But a lot of my close friends might tell you otherwise about my idiosyncrasies and anal ways. One thing that I’m highly protective and anal about is my hair. I go to great lengths to care for it and I do so because I feel like it is something that makes me feel good about myself. I would get a hair spa treatment at least once a month and the rest of the time I’d go in for a nice, soothing hair wash. Like everything that you care for in life, this too yields great results if you stay consistent.

Find a hairstylist you can trust:

I’ve always been thankful for finding Elton Steve Vessoaker, he’s been my hairstylist and hair God for 15 years now. I can say this without a shred of doubt, he fully understands my needs and delivers them. Let me tell you about my first hair cut with him, I probably rehearsed what I wanted to talk to him about for 5-minutes in my head. This is a very me tactic, I go over and over how I wish to frame a conversation. Plus, I really don’t like disturbing people when they are in the midst of a task.

I came outta that salon with the biggest grin on my face and my hair swaying in the wind. Even if I go to him with the most random ideas, he gives me a reality check. He always advises me on the best way to treat my hair and the best way to make a change to my look. I can trust him completely when it comes to my hair, this trust was built over time. So make sure you develop a long-standing history with the hairstylist you choose. However, I have seen some really strange clients that do bizarre things and expect their hairstylists to fix it thereafter.

Here’s a list of things your hairstylist wants you to stop doing to your hair:

1) Trying to cut your own bangs

I’ve seen some hilarious fails of this on the internet so I’m hoping you’ve learnt a lesson from simply watching another person fail miserably. Besides, if cutting hair was easy-peasy we wouldn’t need hairstylists. And I know this quarantine is hard on you, but don’t do it!

Trying to cut your own bangs By Puppy 4 | www.shutterstock.com
Trying to cut your own bangs By Puppy 4 | www.shutterstock.com

2) Trying to trim your own hair

Let me tell you this with my first-hand experience. I let my boyfriend cut my hair. Obviously one side was long and the other short. Don’t get me started. I love him enough to let it go and besides hair grows out so can’t really complain.

Trying to trim your own hair By nelen | www.shutterstock.com
Trying to trim your own hair By nelen | www.shutterstock.com

3) Colouring your own hair

There are a ton of box packages that you can use to colour your hair but honestly, those are to cover any greys you have. If you’re looking to get highlights, lowlights or a global head colour done then you need to consult with your hairstylist. They, of course, tell you about the texture of your hair and if it can withstand the after-effects of the colour you wish to have. These stylists have studied their craft so they know what they’re talking about, listen closely.

Colouring your own hair By Kavun Halyna | www.shutterstock.com
Colouring your own hair By Kavun Halyna | www.shutterstock.com

4) Adding excess heat to your hair

Aren’t we all guilty of this. The extra styling with a blow-dryer or a hair-straightener. You need to get yourself a heat protectant to shield and protect your hair. Alternatively, give your hair a break from all the heat because direct heat can damage hair strands and cause split ends and hair breakage.

Adding excess heat to your hair By Kamil Macniak | www.shutterstock.com
Adding excess heat to your hair By Kamil Macniak | www.shutterstock.com

5) Avoiding that much-needed trim

I think most women get a bit lazy and think why to spend a whole lot for just a trim, which is my prerogative TBH. So, I often wait for my hair to grow out and look like a rats tail before I can actually go get a nice chop. But the ideal time to go get is a trim would be anytime between 8-12 weeks from your last hair cut. Trimming helps get rid of split ends and breakage.

Avoiding that much-needed trim By Marek Valovic | www.shutterstock.com
Avoiding that much-needed trim By Marek Valovic | www.shutterstock.com

6) Requesting celebrity haircuts without pictures

This one really peeves me but I can understand the lure of a celebrities hairstyle. Ladies, they have a ton of things they get done to look the way they do. They also have a team to back them that will effectively set their hair in place and make them look like queens. Also, remember that their hair texture will 100% differ from your and the hair length too. So, even if you do carry an image of a celebrity hairstyle you wish to have, openly ask your hairstylist if it would work well with your hair texture and more importantly if it would suit you. This process helps you build a relationship of trust with your hairstylist, please don’t look for a yes man. Find one that tells you the truth.

Kristen Stewart: Requesting celebrity haircuts without pictures By Andrea Raffin | www.shutterstock.com
Kristen Stewart: Requesting celebrity haircuts without pictures By Andrea Raffin | www.shutterstock.com

7) Expecting a miracle

You can never drastically alter the fibre of your hair, yes, you can manipulate it but you can never totally change it no matter how much money you spend. Reign in your expectations because this will ensure you never walk out of the salon disappointed with your hair.

Expecting a miracle By fizkes | www.shutterstock.com
Expecting a miracle By fizkes | www.shutterstock.com

8) Try to micromanage

If you’re not happy with what you’re seeing with your cut or colour, be honest about it and say something to your stylist. A salon wouldn’t want you to go out and complain to everyone you know or worse put your grievance out on the internet, and many of them will fix their error for free. But, don’t misunderstand your honesty and then micromanage their every move. That is 100% annoying and would lead to them messing your hair up further because they are under unnecessary pressure. Trust that they have a reason to do what they are since they are highly accomplished experts in their field of knowledge.

Try to micromanage By Gonzalo Aragon | www.shutterstock.com
Try to micromanage By Gonzalo Aragon | www.shutterstock.com

9) Rushing through the process

If you showed up late to an appointment, then that is on you. You cannot ask for a gargantuan process and expect the experience to end in 30 minutes. Please be patient, if you’re doing anything apart from a cut it will take up to 2-3 hours at the minimum. You also don’t want the hairstylist to do a hasty and poor job with your hair. So, only go when you truly have the time and peace of mind to stay still.

Rushing through the process By Roman Samborskyi | www.shutterstock.com
Rushing through the process By Roman Samborskyi | www.shutterstock.com

10) Fidgeting

I struggle with this one, I have nervous energy and sometimes it gets hard to contain. Over the years with my trust having grown I’ve eased up a whole lot. He still has to push my head to stay down sometimes. I bet a lot of you relate to that one for sure.

Fidgeting By Odua Images | www.shutterstock.com
Fidgeting By Odua Images | www.shutterstock.com

11) Doubting them

Hairstylists are highly trained professionals. If, in their opinion, going purple would cause irreparable hair damage, then just listen. Of course, it would look totally rad but honestly, it is so not worth a lifetime of fried hair. But if you feel you should go ahead with it then pay ver keen attention to the post colour care that they advise you with. I often think it’s best to buy off the counter the products they advise you to use.

Doubting them By WAYHOME studio | www.shutterstock.com
Doubting them By WAYHOME studio | www.shutterstock.com

Do you exhibit some of these annoying habits when you go to get your hair-fix? Do you know of any more issues hairstylist face? Let me know in the comments below

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