While no two relationships are the same, relationship deal-breakers can be. We are all extremely stressed as it is, and our relationships should not be adding to it. We asked the women of Malini’s Girl Tribe what their relationship deal breakers were, and the responses were great! While some were extremely unique, many were serious and strikingly bright red flags.
It is no surprise that dishonesty is at the top of this list. Lying is simply not okay. Whether it’s lying about meeting an ex or lying about loving Kuch Kuch Hota Hai, it is just not acceptable. The whole point of a relationship is to be yourself and trust your significant other! Your relationship should be your comfort blanket, not a web of lies.
This is an extension of dishonesty but deserves a special mention. It is the highest form of disrespect and one of the ultimate relationship deal-breakers. Be it emotional or physical infidelity. Many people believe in the saying, “Once a cheater, always a cheater” as well. However, many also believe in forgiveness. Personally, I believe that cheating is a choice, not a mistake.
While mainstream movies make this sound like a ‘hot and sexy bad boy’ quality, it is extremely problematic IRL. Nobody has the right to forcefully make you behave a certain way. While it is normal for your significant other to have an opinion on what you do and maybe even try to convince you to do something, they do not have a right to impose their views on you. They’re supposed to help break down your walls, not imprison you within them!
It’s 2020! If your significant other is not a feminist, tell them to leave you alone and go back to the 1900s. They will never see you as an equal and that is a real relationship deal-breaker! No, this doesn’t mean they should not pay for dinner or get you cute gifts, it simply means they should not consider you to be inferior to them because you are a woman.
Whether it’s physical, emotional or psychological abuse, it is a definite deal-breaker. If you are in an abusive relationship, get out of it immediately. If you cannot, please talk to someone about it and get help. Abuse is serious and traumatic, and should never be endured.
Does this even need to be elaborated? While this is not an extremely serious concern like the ones above, it is an issue for some. But, this can change! After all who can hate an adorable fluffball with literal puppy-dog eyes?
Dating somebody who is spineless is a relationship deal-breaker. If they cannot stand up for themselves, how will they ever stand up for you?
This ranks pretty low among the relationship deal-breakers. To be fair, this is code for ‘loves controversy’ and also, ‘loves entertainment’. Dating a Bigg Boss fan could go either way really. However, the one thing that is for certain is that you can bid adieu to your weekend night plans unless they involve watching Salman Khan getting angry on national television.
I can hear this one, too loud and too clear. Lack of table manners is a pet peeve for many, and chewing loudly is the biggest one. When one chews, the aim should be to keep the food in, not have it come out. In these COVID-19 times, this is a health hazard as well! If your significant other is a bad chewer, it’s time you let them know.
Honestly, this is one of the cringiest relationship deal-breakers. While your S/O should have a clean heart, they should also have clean hands (especially in our current scenario). Bad hygiene doesn’t stop at dirty hands, it goes far and beyond to other places. Not. Okay. At. All. If you’re dating an unhygienic person, please help them change for the better.
There are countless other relationship deal-breakers and all are valid in their own way. If there is something about your relationship that makes you uncomfortable, you must tell your partner about it. No matter how major or minute it is, let them know. And if it begins to affect you in a negative way, please do seek professional help.
What is a relationship deal-breaker for you? Share it with us in the comments below.