3 Ways You Can Rebuild Your Broken Relationship—As Told By An Expert

3 Ways You Can Rebuild Your Broken Relationship—As Told By An Expert

Suruchi Patwary
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When you consider the relationships that you have in your life, whether it is a romantic relationship, a business partnership or a friendship; once trust has been broken, rebuilding it can be a very difficult task for most of us. Sometimes this struggle could be due to the circumstances that the relationship ended under, and sometimes it’s because of other external situations. Perhaps you had an ugly fight with your partner, perhaps both of you may have said hurtful things to one another or maybe the timing for your relationship was way off.

The idea of starting over is never easy, but sometimes it is worth it. You may feel as if you have reached a dead-end in your current relationship, but no matter how many roadblocks you’ve encountered, you’re not trapped or forced to stay in that relationship. Do you want to try again with the same partner? Or do you want to move on with someone new?

Devina Kaur, Author of 'Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious'
Devina Kaur, Author of ‘Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious’

We spoke to Devina Kaur—an inspirational speaker, radio host, producer and author of the self-help book Too Fat Too Loud Too Ambitious to know what ways she suggests one can rebuild their relationship. She started off by saying,

The key to rebuilding the possibility of a relationship is to slowly take little steps from the ground up before you can fix or rebuild it to become a true success story. The secret to rebuilding a strong relationship is to have a strong and solid foundation to start with.

1. Acknowledge Yourself

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Woman Listening To Music Meditating By Pheelings media | www.shutterstock.com

Know yourself, your wants and desires, and become the best version of yourself. When you know yourself, you can make the conscious decision to be true to yourself even when the temptation to become someone else may seem enticing and always do whatever feels right for you! This will help you to create a happy relationship with yourself first, which can then be transferred into a great relationship with others in your life as well. This can be a relationship with a friend, a partner, a colleague, maybe even family members.

Take a step back from worry, take deep breaths and try again when you are fresh and less worried. Practice gratitude every day as it leads to happiness. Meditation and being mindful helps centre yourself. Having these stress-relieving tools on hand will make being honest about your feelings easier. This will lead to more self-knowledge and self-acceptance, which ultimately leads to more self-love.

2. Accept Their ‘Love Language’

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Woman Making Heart Shape By SewCream | www.shutterstock.com

The best way you can love someone is to understand who they are as a person, figure out and accept what their love language might be. The five love languages are—receiving words of affirmation, spending quality time, receiving gifts, having acts of service and feeling physical touch.

For example, giving your partner a gift on their birthday or when they have achieved something incredible and always make sure they know how proud you are of them. Go back to the very beginning of your relationship and re-learn who your partner is all over again. Start with a clean slate and then be sure to accept them as they are. Then learn to express your love through your partner’s love language—it will help you to build on your intimacy with one another and feel 100 times closer to each other!

3. Laugh Out Loud

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Couple Laughing By Nemanja Novakovic | www.shutterstock.com

The best way to rebuild a relationship is with the joys of laughter. Laughing can be therapeutic and releases happy hormones called dopamine that allow you to feel good. Make time to experience things you find funny together and tell stories that will make both of you laugh. Joking around as well as laughing are also important ways that people show they are feeling cared for, which is vital in rebuilding any connection. Devina said,

My motto is to laugh 100 times a day. Make it a habit for yourself and your partner too! Finding joy in the little moments and focusing on positivity will help both of you to feel free, come out of your shell and find true happiness in the present moment.

Every so often, we think that we can do everything on our own. We don’t want to burden others with our problems, and we feel like we should be able to take care of things all by ourselves. The reality is that there are times when we need the help of others to get through the tough times and there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking the necessary assistance when we require it.

If you are facing a crisis in your relationship, never be afraid to reach out to professionals who are skilled to help. Most importantly, always listen to your intuition and make sure to nurture your emotions and your vulnerability. Good or bad, remember that no part of you is your enemy.

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