Ever heard a new mom say ‘No Sex Life After Baby’? Well, it’s mostly true. It takes a lot of time to rebuild a body that has just given birth be it Vaginal or a C-section. It takes time to find a dynamic with your partner and a baby in the picture – You’re mostly sleep deprived, without a routine, and your body kind of feels empty from inside. Your libido will be at an all-time low. It’s totally okay to feel a little edgy before your first time.
Even after your OBGYN has given you a green signal to get all handsy in the bed, the thought of having sex the first time after the baby can be overwhelming. Here we’ve got some first-hand advice for the new moms for pleasurable postpartum sex.
Take things slow. The key is to start slow, be gentle, and build it up. Things can’t get as good as they were pre-baby just the first time you try. You need to be patient and have really low expectations. – Neha
Open communication is the way to get what you want, let your partner know what feels good and what doesn’t. Ask them to do what you’d like and be a little gentle for the first couple of times. – Sarika
LUBE. Lots of it. Your vagina will get really dry after the delivery. It’s good to invest in some lubes to avoid unpleasantness due to friction. You could even use extra virgin coconut oil if you don’t have lube handy. – Priyanka
Understand your feelings; let your partner know if you’re waiting for a certain time or if you would like more foreplay than the usual. This helps your partner to understand you and give you the kind of experience that would be a stress buster for both of you. – Monica
Go on a date. It’s really important to spend some time alone with your partner after having a baby. Your partner usually feels a little lonely as all eyes are on the baby and you. Go for a candlelight dinner or a drive and spend quality time together. – Jade
Wait for the time that has been advised by your gynac. Some doctors say 4 weeks and some advise 6 weeks. Check with your doctor before you decide to dive deep in. Let your body heal. – Natasha
Don’t forget to use birth control. They say breastfeeding is a natural contraceptive but studies have shown that women can be extremely fertile even after just giving birth. So unless you’re aiming for 2 under 2 do not forget to consult your doctor and choose your method of birth control. – Khushboo
Get experimentative. Try something that you’ve never tried before to feel sexy again. Try different positions or even different locations. Try something that you have wanted to try since a long time.– Ira
Give it time. If your body doesn’t feel ready for it, don’t hesitate to convey it to your partner. I’m sure you could just cuddle or sleep together and that would work perfectly fine too. – Prachi
Treat yourself to new clothes. Usually new moms get so busy taking care of the kids that they tend to ignore their own desires. Get some new lingerie and give your husband an exclusive try-on session – Palak
The infamous postpartum phase will come with its own benefits and cons. Just know that this shall pass too.
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