As a person with Type A personality, I can guarantee you that I do literally every single thing in a rush. Whether it is talking, walking, typing (as I am currently), I speed through everything. My third-grade teacher used to call me a bullet train and for good reason. In order to learn how to slow down in 2020 and make some time for me, I decided to give motivational speaker, Jay Shetty‘s podcast a shot. His podcast is called On Purpose and serve its purpose it did!
“I really feel that our focus and addiction to speed and doing things instantly is what is creating so many issues in our lives, in our bodies, in our minds and in our relationships right now,” Jay Shetty mentioned.
Here are the 5 things that Shetty recommends us to not rush in life, like, ever:
Jay spoke about decision fatigue—a phenomenon where, due to the small and minor decisions we make in life, we do not have the capacity to make the major decisions that are pending. To avoid ignoring the crucial parts of life, here’s what you can do:
Trust is something that is hard to build and easy to lose! Hence, work towards building a stable relationship with anyone is important. It is important to slow down and wait before trusting someone. This will not only then strengthen the relationship but also help you make a better judgment of whether this person deserves your trust or not.
It is easy to come to a rash judgement based on meeting someone for 10 minutes. But to actually know someone well, you need to give them time and space to be their true selves. At the end of the day, we all have different personalities based on who we interact with! I once read an article that said that your personality changes based on the language you’re speaking. Now isn’t that crazy? Anyways, Jay says, ”You only saw them in a snapshot. So, you can’t really accurately judge someone’s character immediately”.
One of my top mistakes— eating fast has really made me prioritise other things such as work over taking a break. Shetty mentions how a lot of us get caught up in our stressful corporate lives, wanting to eat at our desk for ‘productivity’. In any case, it is vital to take a break, of even an hour, to de-stress and maintain a healthy schedule.
It might be easy to say, ‘Oh, I met her and we immediately clicked and became best friends’. But according to The Journal Of Social And Personal Relationships, it takes approximately 50 hours of time with someone before you can consider them a casual friend, to become real friends you need to spend 90 hours together, and in order to become BFFs 200 hours together are ideal.
In general, slowing down and being more patient will enable you to reach your goals for 2020! Let’s start this decade on a slow note, okay?
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