2020 has been an extremely difficult year in regards to mental health and emotional well-being. The pandemic claimed several thousand lives, ruined economies, and left family’s broken. Apart from the pandemic, the world also witnessed a lot of suicides that deeply affected them this year. Witnessing a family member become suicidal can be devastating. And since it is World Suicide Prevention Day today, we thought we should try to get a better understanding of it and how to be supportive in the best way possible along with expert guidance and inputs.
We got in touch with Psychologist Anagha Bhave and Nikita Sulay to know about how to help and deal with a family member having suicidal thoughts. Most of us are still working from home and spend most of our time locked inside our houses. And so, it is important for us to be able to help our loved ones when they are going through a suicidal patch properly. Anagha shared the short term and long term preventive measures that one should remember when dealing with a suicidal person. And Nikita gave her inputs on what to say and what not to say to a suicidal person. Scroll down to read all about it.
Remember, signs do not look the same for everyone and it is quite different among teenagers and adults too. And so, it is very important that you understand the signs of suicidal thoughts or tendencies. As per Anagha, some of the most common signs of suicide in teenagers are:
The signs to look out for in adults are a little different than those in teenagers. Some of the most common ones are:
Some signs mentioned by Nikita were,
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Posted @withregram • @malinisgirltribe Suicidal warning signs should be taken very seriously. Some signs are obvious, but some are subtle and easy to miss. It is important to know them, as early detection can lead to professional help and treatment and can even save a life. So, we reached out to @mpowerminds to shed light on the red flags and warning signs one should watch out for. – @poojamaheshwary, Features Writer 🌻 #WorldSuicidePreventionDay #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #EmotionalHealth #Suicide #MpowerMinds
It is a common myth that people who talk about suicide don’t actually do it. But this is not at all true. It is always better to be over precautious than under. Talking about suicide is a major red flag.
As a family member or friend, you need to help them seek professional help. Get help with a psychiatrist or a psychologist. And sometimes, it can be scary for the person to go to the sessions all by themselves. So, accompany them to the professional and encourage them to take help.
It is very important on how we react to a family member opening up to us about their suicidal tendencies. Remember to avoid arguing with them, giving too much advice, and especially challenging their notions. Don’t be shocked, devastated, or start blaming yourself when they tell you they’re suicidal. It will just make them more conscious and uncomfortable to share further. Instead, be supportive verbally and/or non-verbally. Give them hope and be non-judgemental.
After someone opens up to you about their suicidal thoughts, a natural reaction would be to try to protect them and keep an eye on them at all times. But that doesn’t mean you hover on them all the time. Just keep a watchful eye but don’t make them feel like they’re under surveillance all the time.
Help them in creating a safety plan with the help of a professional. Along with this, you can also create a ‘hope box’ with them—a box containing mementoes of their protective factors (people, achievements, relationships they care about). The hope box and safety plan are to be used when they are feeling actively suicidal.
Sometimes, all this can take a toll on your mental and physical health too. You might find yourself feeling exhausted, mentally tired and emotionally drained. But you have to remember that you cannot help others if you aren’t okay yourself! You have to take care of yourself and make sure your heart, mind and soul are happy and well.
In case of a situation where you’d need more help, you need to have an emergency numbers list on you all the time.
Contribute to fostering an environment of emotional support and open communication at home. Let everyone feel comfortable in sharing their difficulties and keep it judgement-free.
It is a common myth that talking about suicide can plant the idea of suicide in the person’s head. And that’s just not how it works. In fact, it may actually reduce the stigma around it and help the suicidal person to come forward and open up.
Bombarding a suicidal family member who is emotionally vulnerable with news about suicides may lead to ‘copycat suicides’ i.e. thinking that suicide is a way out. Cases of suicide have been known to go up with incidents like Sushant Singh Rajput‘s death and with series like 13 Reasons Why. So if a person is suicidal and they keep seeing stuff like this they may think it’s a way out.
If you’re a parent, you should maintain good relations with your child’s friends. As they may be able to offer valuable insights into your child’s difficulties if they are not opening up about it themselves.
To be able to help a suicidal family member, you first need to learn a lot yourself. There are a lot of things we might think would prove to be beneficial but actually does the total opposite of it. And so, be a wise and sensible parent/friend/family member and seek counselling yourself to learn how you can be rational and emotionally supportive to them.
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Learning what to say to someone who is suicidal is an important step in helping others. We all want to do the right thing when it comes to helping our friends and loved ones, but too often we choose the wrong words either out of frustration or just not knowing what to say. The words we do choose are crucial and can have a considerable impact on the person in crisis. So, we reached out to @mpowerminds to shed light on what not to say to a person dealing with suiciding thoughts and what to say instead. – @poojamaheshwary, Features Writer 🌻 #WorldSuicidePreventionDay #SuicidePrevention #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #EmotionalHealth #Suicide #MpowerMinds
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When you or someone you care for is mentally or emotionally unwell, you may not know where to turn for help. A mental health helpline can help point you in the right direction. **This post is in collaboration with @inner_kraft.** Head to @malinisgirltribe for more such information! – @poojamaheshwary, Features Writer 🌻 #Helplines #MentalHealth #MentalHealthAwareness #EmotionalHealth #WorldSuicidePreventionDay #Innerkraft